Hello C4AC Family,
I hope that you all are doing well. There have been some minor changes to C4AC and also some other information that just needs to be made clear. First and Foremost, there is a NEW number for C4AC. If you have any questions or concerns you can contact me(Nicole Lofton) at 708-232-0463 that is the offical number for Loftons Travel/C4AC.

Secondly when making a reservation the information that is needed in order for your invoice to be completed is your name(first and last), phone number, email address, birthday(optional for right now but will definitely be needed when it is time to assign the rooms with Carnival), AND the cabin that you would like. If you and your roommates will be paying all together that is fine I will just use one number but I will still need all of the email addresses. If you would like separate invoices then please let me know. If you pay via phone then you will get an confirmation from Carnival Cruise Lines and from myself. If you pay online via the the C4AC website then you will recieve a confirmation from PayPal as well as one from myself.

RATES
There have been a lot of questions regarding prices. The cabin prices are per person as a whole not per person per day. If there are more than 2 people staying in the room then the 3rd, 4th and 5th person get charged a lower rate. Some people have asked about that rate, you can divide the total price up  the number if people in the cabin and pay that way but the rates will still show up on there.

DEPOSIT
The LAST day to make the deposit at the 25 dollar rate was May 25th 2011, the deposit has NOW gone up to 50 dollars(per person).

QUESTIONS OR CONCERNS
If you have ANY questions or concerns, you can email cruiseforacause2@gmail.com, you can submit them via the website and it will go straight to the C4AC email, or you can also call the C4AC number which again is 708-232-0463. Also there is a scheduling system on the website, if you need a specific time to speak with me you can fill out that form and schedule the time and it will email me so that I am aware of it.

Again thank you all for supporting C4AC, I look forwarded to speaking with you and cruising with you.

Thank You,
Nicole Lofton
Founder of C4AC/Independent Travel Agent

 
DURHAM (WTVD) -- Since ABC11 Eyewitness News broke the story last week, Alaina Giordano's story has been all over the news.

Giordano has stage 4 breast cancer and lost custody of her two children to her ex-husband.

An online petition supporting her efforts has close to 18,000 signatures. The hope is that once it reaches Governor Beverly Perdue, Perdue will encourage the judge to overturn the custody ruling.



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It's a ruling at least one family law expert says the mom has already lost.

"I know that my children keep me strong," Giordano said.

A Durham judge ordered the children should live with their father in the Chicago area. That's where he was able to land a job and find a house in a good school district, while Girodano is unemployed and facing ongoing cancer treatment.

Thousands of supporters on Facebook believe Giordano should not lose her children because she has cancer.

But the ruling is about much more than cancer, according to longtime Raleigh family Attorney Charles Ullman. He reviewed the 27-page order and says the judge has other concerns.

"That she might expose the children to some type of risk, security risk, health risk, not provide for them," Ullman said.

The reason is while both parents haven't been angels, getting into an altercation and both spending the night in jail, Giordano has more strikes against her.

She confesses to having an adulterous relationship, spending days out of state with a married man while her children were with their grandparents.

On another occasion, Giordano did not make suitable arrangements for her children on a day a doctor told her she was going to be admitted to the hospital.

The order shows she took her children to Duke Hospital.

To avoid calling child protective services, the doctor took the children home with her. The doctor called it a crisis and Giordano called it a great opportunity for the children to get to know the person treating their mother.

Finally, when the children were visiting their father, Giordano failed to send her son's epinephrine pen. The judge believes that shows she has difficulty separating her anger from the well-being of her children.

She could get 50 percent custody if she moves to Chicago.

"It really would be dangerous for me to move away from my support system and my medical team," Giordano said.

Currently, a United Airline's flight attendant is offering buddy passes so Giordano can fly to see her children.

There also is a donation page and hundreds of dollars pledged to help with medical and legal bills. Ullman says it's not worth an appeal since custody cases are rarely overturned.

His advice to Giordano is to relocate.

"You can control [the] result by moving," he said. "Yes, I would tell her move."

Giordano hopes a lawyer will take her care pro bono, which so far has not happened.

She's expected to hand over her children by June 15.

 
Every story of abuse is different.

After living in fear for years, Jane’s story ended tragically one warm night in Phoenix. As news helicopters flocked overhead, Jane’s ex-husband lashed out until two bodies lay dead.

Jane never could have predicted what would happen when she married her husband 15 years earlier. Domestic violence didn’t enter their marriage until 15 years in.

Jane, who asked that we not use her real name, grew up in a supportive home with no outward signs of abuse.

Abuse, she later realized, affects all classes of people regardless of the strength of their character, race, background or income level.

Of the 140 women and children who sought safety and guidance at the Time Out Shelter last year, each had a unique history. Most experienced physical (47 percent) and psychological (56 percent) abuse and nearly half (43 percent) had witnessed abuse as a child.

An increasing number, however, felt trapped, unable to leave their homes due to the economic times although the number of domestic violence arrests increased 8 percent over the last year.

“Women are reluctant to leave home due to the recession,” said Gerry Bailey, Time Out Inc. executive director.

Hoping to draw women out of their abusive situations, Time Out expanded its lay legal and community-based programs while continuing to operate a 28-bed shelter and four transitional housing units.

Jane now helps at Time Out, passing her story on with the hope that another woman, another child, doesn’t have to live through what her family did.

On Tuesday night, Jane shared her story at Time Out’s 18th annual board of directors meeting at the Payson Public Library.

Gripping the sides of a podium, Jane stood tall, her brown hair and makeup neatly styled, with a room full of staff, volunteers and community members looking on.

Jane explained that more than a decade into her marriage, her first introduction to abuse came suddenly and shockingly.

After growing apart from her husband, she had asked for a divorce.

The threat of losing the relationship triggered something in Jane’s husband that she had never seen. He became aggressive and violent, with threats escalating from mild to serious quickly.

“He threatened to kill our children, my mother and sister,” she said. “He said he was not afraid of the police and if I ran he would kill me.”

By his tone and the wild look in his eyes, Jane took her husband’s threats seriously.

Jane backed down from a divorce.

Jane’s husband reminded her every day of his threats, ripping stories of domestic violence from the newspaper and placing them on their bed.

When he saw a story of murder/suicide he said, “See it really happens.”

“I felt helpless and hopeless,” she said.

Afraid, Jane didn’t tell anyone about the abuse.

“I felt a deeper need to keep others safe,” she said.

For many women, it is a myth that if you call the police they will arrest the man and keep you safe.

“In many situations this may be true, but not in my experience,” she said. “I knew, my intuition told me, that they could not protect me.”

At the time, Jane lived in the Valley.

Payson Police Department’s Chief Don Engler has said that domestic violence calls are the most dangerous for officers. With a relationship, children and a home at stake, police never know what an abuser will do to protect what he has been destroying.

Jane’s intuition would prove correct.

For the next three years, she continued to live with her husband. One night, he grew angry after an argument and “thoroughly beat me,” eventually holding a knife to her throat.

“I will kill you,” he screamed.

He pulled the phone from the wall so she couldn’t call for help. Afterward, he followed her around like a shadow, asking her where she was going and who she was hanging out with.

Two months later, it happened again.

Afterward, a remarkable thing happened — he asked for a divorce.

“I was so happy he was letting me go,” she said.

Jane moved out and got her own home and for the next nine months, they had a civil relationship, co-parenting their children.

“Everything seemed to be going fine and then he found out I was dating,” she said.

He called her and asked why she was dating when she had promised that she would never date again.

“I had never promised him that,” she said. “For two hours he sobbed and I listened and then he said, ‘You better come get the kids because they are not safe with me now.’”

Jane jumped in her vehicle and drove as fast as she could.

“I didn’t know if I would find them all dead,” she said.

Luckily, everyone was safe.

Eventually, Jane finally did call the police and was given a temporarily respite at a hotel.

She got an order of protection and for three weeks, he stayed away.

However, the cycle of abuse was far from over.

On Christmas Eve, he called and said the family would make headlines if they were not all together again.

Abusers often use threats and violence to remain in control.

Increasingly fearful for her family’s safety, Jane pulled her two children from school and moved into a travel trailer at a campground.

More bad news was on the way. Jane lost her job, because co-workers worried they would be in the crosshairs of Jane’s ex-husband’s rage and her children lost friends.

“We were labeled as dysfunctional,” she said.

Fed up with being afraid, Jane moved back into her home, installed a security system, bought a gun then she learned her ex had moved out of the state.

“I felt I had some security,” she said.

Four weeks later, on May 9, 2008, everything changed for good.

As Jane was leaving her home with a male friend for a night out, a figure emerged from the darkness.

“I didn’t even recognize who it was at first,” she said.

Then she saw the whites of her ex-husband’s eyes, wide with anger and madness.

He pushed Jane and her friend back into the home and put a handgun up to Jane’s head, taunting her.

“He asked us to lay face down on the ground,” she said, “and my friend said, ‘No, you don’t have do it.’”

In a disorienting moment, Jane’s friend distracted her ex. She wiggled free from the floor and ran to get her gun out of the safe.

Her mind raced as she put the combination in, pulled the gun out, loaded the bullets and cocked the gun — bam bam!

Disoriented, Jane ran from the house to a neighbor’s home where she called for help.

Her ex ran after, asking her to come back. She ignored his pleas.

By the time police came, her ex barricaded himself in her home.

When officers finally got into the house, they found Jane’s friend dead, shot twice in the back.

Jane’s ex then turned the gun on himself while sitting on the sofa.

The nightmare was finally over, but the trauma would live on forever.

Jane’s children have gone through intensive grief counseling with Stepping Stones and Jane has found solace working with other victims of domestic violence.

“It takes a village to raise domestic violence victims out of that cycle,” she said. “I encourage everyone to volunteer — to reach out and help.”

Last year, Time Out’s 161 volunteers gave a record 18,000 hours working in either the shelter or thrift shop.

Without volunteers, the shelter could not operate, said Sandy Litkenhaus, chair of Time Out’s board.

For more information or to volunteer, call (928) 472-8007 or visit www.timeoutshelter.org.

 
In 2008, I opened my Bible and began to read the story about Abigail and Nabel. It was a story that spoke to me in various ways for various reasons. This is a story of a woman who experienced domestic violence and although it does not go into detail we do know that Abigail's Husband(Nabel) was a very hot tempered, mean and disrespectful man. Nabel was a man that was selfish and truly only concerned with himself. When people did things for him he in returned acted like he didnt know them. Nabel always felt like somebody owed him something. Eventually, with Nabel behaving that way, he would soon get into trouble. One day when David came to pay Nabel a visit, Nabel acted as if he did not know who David was, He began to yell and say all kind of things to the men that David sent to talk to Nabel. When the news was reported back to David, David was furious because he knew that Nabel knew very well who he was. David had did a lot for him as well as offer to protect him and his family. All David asked was if Nabel would be so kind to feed his men. Seeing as David had done so much for him, he still asked and Nabel disrespected him. David was so mad that he said he would kill everybody that was surrounded by Nabel. When the news got back to Abigail she went behind her husbands back and went to David and basically talked him out of seeking revenge because we all know that vengeance is of the Lord. Abigail did not make any excuses for her husband, but she knew that she had faith in God and that God would turn her situation around. Because Abigail went to David to make peace on behalf of her husband David decided not to kill Nabel and his family. Most people would say that Abigail was wrong for going behind her husbands back, but she was not because she knew that either way it went her husband would not listen and would be mad. If it wasn't for Abigail she and her family probably would have died because of her husbands ignorance and lack of respect for others.

Look at some scriptures that showed Abigail's Faith and humbleness: Samuel 25:24-31 1 Samuel 25:24-31 (New International Version)"24 She fell at his feet(Davids) and said: "My lord, let the blame be on me alone. Please let your servant speak to you; hear what your servant has to say. 25 May my lord pay no attention to that wicked man Nabal. He is just like his name--his name is Fool, and folly goes with him. But as for me, your servant, I did not see the men my master sent. 26 "Now since the LORD has kept you, my master, from bloodshed and from avenging yourself with your own hands, as surely as the LORD lives and as you live, may your enemies and all who intend to harm my master be like Nabal. 27 And let this gift, which your servant has brought to my master, be given to the men who follow you. 28 Please forgive your servant's offense, for the LORD will certainly make a lasting dynasty for my master, because he fights the LORD's battles. Let no wrongdoing be found in you as long as you live. 29 Even though someone is pursuing you to take your life, the life of my master will be bound securely in the bundle of the living by the LORD your God. But the lives of your enemies he will hurl away as from the pocket of a sling. 30 When the LORD has done for my master every good thing he promised concerning him and has appointed him leader over Israel, 31 my master will not have on his conscience the staggering burden of needless bloodshed or of having avenged himself. And when the LORD has brought my master success, remember your servant."

If we remember in proverbs 31 it says that a woman's husband and children will praise her and call her blessed just because of who she is and although Abigail was not Davids wife YET look at his response to her:"Then David said to Abigail: “Blessed is the Lord God of Israel, who sent you this day to meet me! And blessed is your advice and blessed are you, because you have kept me this day from coming to bloodshed and from avenging myself with my own hand.

David praised God and was thankful that Abigail talked some sense into him she didn't cover up what her husband did, but she let God use her to let David know that he should do the right thing INSPITE OF.

Shorty after this whole ordeal, God killed Nabel(Abigail's Husband) and David came and asked for Abigail's hand in marriage and she accepted.

Ladies AND gentlemen allow me to address the issue of domestic violence to you. Domestic violence is ANY AND ALL forms of abuse if you are being disrespected, threaten, called out your name, if you are being controlled(told what to do, what to wear, monitored as far as were you can go, what you can do, who you can talk to, etc),If you are being told things such as you will never be anything without them, you need them. you will never amount to anything, you are worthless, ugly, etc. If you are being physically abused you are a victim of domestic violence and we would love to help you in anyway but let me introduce you to GOD if I may. You see what God did for Abigail? God cannot stand a wicked man/or woman especially one that is unwilling to change because there are some that can change. When God says vengeance of Him and not us that is exactly what he means. He loves his children so much but we have to get our faith up. Look at the faith Abigail had it was amazing!!! ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL/HANDSOME. GOD MADE NO MISTAKES WHEN HE MADE US IN FACT HE MADE US FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY. HE GAVE US LIFE SO THAT WE MAY HAVE IT ABUNDANTLY AND WE WILL.

Please hear my plead and my cry!!!!!!!!!! please! There are many women and men out here that are suffering in silence from domestic violence!!! GOD HEARS THAT CRY AND HE IS HELPING BUT HE ALSO USES OTHERS TO HELP! WE ARE HERE TO HELP OTHERS. PLEASE SUPPORT THOSE WHO ARE SUFFERING FROM DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN ANY WAY THAT YOU CAN. GOD HAS TURNED THIS CRUISE FOR A CAUSE INTO SOMETHING BIGGER THAN I EVER IMAGINED. THIS IS BIGGER THAN ME, YOU OR US. THERE HAVE BEEN SO MANY SURVIVORS BROUGHT TOGETHER JUST FROM THE IDEA OF THIS CRUISE. IMAGINE SOME DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS JOINING THIS CRUISE BUT WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY ARE GOING THROUGH BECAUSE THEY ARE SILENT AND EVERYTHING SEEMS FINE. IMAGINE US COMING TOGETHER ON THIS CRUISE AND SHARING OUR TESTIMONIES AND WITH THE HELP OF GOD HELPING SETTING THESE VICTIMS SOULS FREE. GLORY TO GOD IN ADVANCE FOR THAT. WE NEED TO SET UP SO WE CAN HELP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS SPEAK UP AND GET OUT. WHO IS GOING TO TAKE A STAND FOR THEM? FOR WE KNOW WE CANNOT DO ANYTHING BY OURSELVES. TWO IS BETTER THAN ONE AND THREE IS BETTER THAN TWO. GOD BLESS YOU ALL. IF YOU CAN JOIN THIS CRUISE PLEASE DO SO.

If you are are a domestic violence victim feel free to contact cruiseforacause@gmail.com. We are all brothers and sisters in Christ and we should all help each other. You can even submit a comment through the main page of the website and it will go to the cruise for a cause email. If you are a survivor and would like to share your story please send an email to cruiseforacause2@gmail.com

1−800−799−SAFE(7233) that is the national domestic violence hotline number and they can connect you to any domestic violence center in your state or area.

 
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